This is the return message regarding my e-mail. Our memories are such a cherished part of our lives. I have urged Becky to print her "Blogs" and have them as a gift to her family upon her passing. What a wonderful gift - far better than about anything I can imagine!
-----Original Message-----
From: Becky Jamison [mailto:becky.jamison5@gmail.com]
Sent: Thursday, May 07, 2009 11:34 AM
To: Judy McCormick
Subject: Hi!
Dear Judy,
BLESS YOUR HEART! You are such an awesome friend! I loved your letter and it brought back so many memories! I want to encourage you to post that letter in your blog (you can email it right to your blog). That's a wonderful reminiscing story! I thought of so many things to write back--and that's what reading a letter always did for me. As I read it, I couldn't wait to sit down and reply! That was the "conversation" part of communicating!
My first memory of getting my own mail was as a 10 year old, visiting my "real" mom in Wichita for 6 weeks each summer. My step-mom missed me and my brother so much that she wrote every week. But my "real" mom wouldn't hand over the letter to me...she'd sit at the kitchen table and read it out loud to me and Dennis. I was always so homesick those letters would choke me up, but I couldn't cry in front of my Mother and let her know I missed my step-mom and Dad! Horrible times those were. But I learned that personal letters in the mail stirred EMOTION! That's the part I loved! When I went to college my step-mom wrote me every week. Now that I'm doing genealogy I recall that she even wrote during my first year away from home about her first serious boyfriend. His name was Charles. Now that she's gone I have the photos of him from her album, but didn't save the letters and don't know his last name! Don't ya hate it when that happens?
I saved letters from my first serious boyfriend--but my step-mom threw them away after I was first married. Maybe that was just as well, but I'd still have them today if she hadn't. Oh man, did I love him!
As I was married and had my son, I wrote weekly to my best friend from college who only lived 45 miles away. I saved most of her letters and am so glad I did. She passed away from Melanoma at age 34 in 1981. I wrote her grown daughter last year asking if she'd like to have those letters. She never wrote me back.
Email is nice, but it's such a shame that people won't grow up anymore having the memories of opening the mail box and seeing a HANDWRITTEN, addressed and stamped personal letter! It's always lke a present when I find a letter in the mail. I loved writing tablets. First the Big Chief tablet you mentioned from grade school. Such a poor grade of paper, but I even liked to SMELL it! Like smelling Crayola crayons! Then the ruled notebook paper we moved on to in high school. Then if you were lucky you got a real writing tablet or stationary! My granduncle published a newspaper in Texas (in the 50s he published the Florence Citizen!!!!) and for my high school graduation he sent me writing tablets with my NAME on each page. Woohoo!
I could pour my heart out in the letters I wrote. I could write up a 15 page letter in one sitting. Now my hand will hardly address an envelope! My muscles have gotten so weak from using the keyboard for the last 20 years. Such a shame!
I have a particular memory of getting those letters from my step-mom while visiting my mother in Wichita. Probably because those were pretty traumatic experiences for the shy, fearful little girl that I was. I remember looking at the envelopes with the 3 cent stamp on them. I remember the very summer day of that experience. I remember the evening I had to sit down at our kitchen table beside my brother with pencil in hand, and writing what my Dad dictated to us--telling our Mother we wouldn't be visiting her ever again and would see her no more. Tears rolled down my face---I was 12 years old. After my mother died in 1990, my half-sister gave me that letter--my mother had kept it from 1960 until her death in 1990. And I treasure it now.
When my stepmom died in 1997 I found letters my brother had written home from Viet Nam...I have letters he wrote to me too. He took my full name and wrote a poem, using the letters of my name to start each line. He did that for soldiers to earn money while he was there. I treasure those AIR MAIL letters. They're in my night stand beside where I lay my head each night.
I treasure the one page letter my son Matt wrote to me on Mother's Day in 1994 telling me how much he loved me and why. It's framed and sitting in my bedroom bookcase!
And I said my step-mom wrote me every week---even after I moved to Colorado in 1987. She wrote every Sunday night before going to bed. She wrote me on Sunday night Feb. 24, 1997. She put the letter on the "buffet" in her dining room and asked Dad to mail it Monday morning. She passed away 4 hours later in bed. Dad handed me the letter when I arrived home to plan her funeral on Feb. 25th.
Yes, your letter brought back a lot of memories. Thank you for the wonderful gift, Judy! You've made my day!
Love, Becky
"We live as long as we're remembered."
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